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Introduction

The conventional path to success often fails to account for the unique challenges faced by individuals from underrepresented groups, including women, people of color, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Stacey Abrams, who made history as the first Black woman to be nominated for governor by a major party, intimately understands the experience of being an outsider. However, through her remarkable career in politics, entrepreneurship, and the nonprofit sector, Abrams has discovered that these differences can be a powerful source of strength. These summaries distill her hard-won insights, offering practical advice on navigating hidden pathways to leadership, overcoming systemic inequality, and conquering self-doubt and external prejudice. You’ll learn how a simple spreadsheet empowered Abrams, the benefits of embracing “Work-Life Jenga” over work-life balance, and how power mapping can help you achieve your goals.

One

Embracing ambition is the first step towards leadership, especially for those starting from the outside. Stacey Abrams’ journey is a testament to this. When applying for the Rhodes Scholarship, Abrams was hesitant, fearing she wouldn’t win. However, with the encouragement of her college dean, she took the leap and advanced to the finals, although she ultimately didn’t win.

This experience was a turning point for Abrams, as she realized she could expand her aspirations. She went on to attend Yale Law School, setting the course for her career. Abrams’ advice is to locate your ambition and ask yourself, “What do I want?” She did this during her freshman year of college, creating a spreadsheet to visualize her success and goals for the next 40 years.

To identify your ambition, consider the following steps:

– Reflect on Your Goals: Write down five things you would choose to do for the rest of your life.

– Understand Your Why: Consider why you want to achieve your goals and how you’ll get there.

– Be Flexible: Organize your plans around your purpose, and be willing to change course if needed.

Abrams’ story highlights the importance of passion in driving action. By focusing on what truly matters to you, you’ll be more likely to take the leap and pursue your ambitions.

Two

The fear of being a minority is both intricate and pervasive – but it’s a challenge you can confront and even turn to your advantage. For many minorities, one of the biggest barriers to pursuing their ambitions is the belief that being “different” disqualifies them from leadership. When Stacey Abrams ran for governor of Georgia, even her closest friends and supporters doubted the state was ready for a Black woman in the role. It wasn’t because she lacked qualifications. By the age of 29, Abrams had been appointed deputy city attorney for Atlanta. Five years later, she was elected to the Georgia House of Representatives, and four years after that, she became the Democratic minority leader. Despite her impressive track record, no Black woman had ever been a major-party gubernatorial nominee before, making her candidacy seem implausible.

The core lesson is this: minority fear may be complex and deeply ingrained, but it can be faced head-on and used as a catalyst for growth. If every outsider avoided challenging societal norms out of fear, progress would come to a standstill. The first step to overcoming these fears is acknowledging them. Maybe your ambition feels like a double-edged sword: failure might set back others who share your identity, while success could isolate you from your community. Or perhaps you’ve absorbed stereotypes that make you doubt your abilities. These fears are valid, profound, and difficult to overcome, but what you can control is your response to them.

Consider Abrams’s experience as minority leader. Her role required her to challenge those in power, but she had to navigate carefully to avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes. If she was too forceful, she risked being labeled as “shrill” or “aggressive.” If she leaned into her natural introversion, she feared being perceived as weak. After careful reflection, Abrams chose to rely on a proven strength: her skill with words. While some Democrats initially criticized her for not delivering fiery takedowns of Republican policies, she won them over with speeches that were sharp, thoughtful, and persuasive.

Like Abrams, think about how you can stay true to yourself while adapting to your environment. You may not be able to dismantle every stereotype, but you can demonstrate the value of your unique perspective. Start by reflecting on your traits. Write down your best and worst qualities, along with examples of how they manifest. Why do you appreciate or struggle with these traits? Then, consider how others might perceive your strengths and weaknesses. This exercise can help you embrace your authenticity while leveraging your differences to create meaningful change.

Three

Outsiders can break into traditional power circles by disrupting the status quo. Stacey Abrams’ experience in Georgia is a prime example. In 2014, the Democratic Party held little sway in the state, with no Democratic governor elected in 15 years and no Democratic presidential nominee voted in in 22 years. Abrams, then minority leader of the House Democrats, was determined to drive change.

She co-founded the New Georgia Project, a nonprofit aimed at registering 800,000 eligible, unregistered voters of color. Despite facing setbacks, including the Republican secretary of state illegally canceling 40,000 voter applications, Abrams persisted. By 2018, an additional 200,000 new voters had been registered, reshaping Georgia’s political landscape.

Abrams’ success demonstrates that outsiders can navigate their way to power by “hacking” traditional systems. She recognizes that systemic inequality prevents meritocracy from functioning fairly. For instance, the average return on investment for a four-year degree in the US is significantly higher for white families ($55,869) than Black families ($4,846).

To overcome these obstacles, Abrams suggests:

– Finding hidden pathways: Look for unconventional connections, such as alumni from your school who work in your desired industry.

– Seeking advice: Reach out to these connections for guidance.

– Getting your foot in the door: Intern or volunteer to gain experience and make your case for a permanent role.

– Recognizing the difference between humility and self-doubt: Avoid downplaying your achievements, as this can lead others to underestimate your abilities.

By embracing these strategies, outsiders can effectively challenge traditional power structures and create new opportunities for themselves and others.

Four

When Stacey Abrams became Atlanta’s deputy city attorney, she faced resistance from her team. An unlikely mentor, Laurette Woods, the law department’s financial manager, helped Abrams identify and address her shortcomings. Woods’ guidance on leadership, employee management, and personal relationships proved invaluable, saving Abrams’ budding career.

The key takeaway is to identify the support you need and build a diverse “board of advisors.” As an outsider or minority, you may face unique challenges requiring guidance from multiple sources.

Before seeking mentors, engage in self-reflection to understand your personality, strengths, and weaknesses. This self-awareness will help you form authentic connections and process outside advice effectively.

To build a mentorship network, be intentional about what you’re looking for:

1. Sponsor: Someone who can vouch for you to others.
2. Adviser: A deeper relationship with someone who advocates for you and offers guidance.
3. Situational mentor: A short-term sounding board for specific challenges.
4. Peer mentor: An ally who understands your challenges and can offer support.

To make the most of your mentorship:

1. Set up regular check-ins.
2. Ask valuable, targeted questions.
3. Request specific help when needed.
4. Take responsibility for driving the mentorship forward.

By building a diverse network of mentors and being proactive in seeking guidance, you can overcome challenges and achieve success.

Five

After graduating from Yale Law, Stacey Abrams faced a harsh financial reality. Despite a lucrative job offer, her poor credit score and accumulated debt threatened to derail her career. Abrams tackled her financial woes head-on, using her student loans and signing bonus to settle her debt and educate herself on personal finance.

The key takeaway is that financial fluency is crucial for overcoming the obstacles to leadership. Systemic biases can exacerbate financial challenges, but by acknowledging these barriers and taking proactive steps, you can gain control over your finances.

To achieve financial fluency:

1. Assess your financial situation: Honestly evaluate your past financial decisions and acknowledge the systemic barriers that may have contributed to your challenges.
2. Create a debt repayment plan: Make sacrifices if necessary, and consider a side hustle to generate extra income.
3. Seek support: Consult a personal financial advisor or utilize resources like “Personal Finance for Dummies.”
4. Build financial competence: Volunteer, take courses, or participate in financial management training to gain insider knowledge.
5. Confidently seek investment: When fundraising, remember that investors expect effort and a high probability of success, not guaranteed returns.
6. Know your plan inside out: Understand the details of your financial plan, including funding requirements and allocations.

By following these steps, you can overcome financial obstacles and develop the financial fluency necessary for effective leadership.

Six

Stacey Abrams’ experience as a young tax attorney highlights the importance of embracing mistakes and learning from them. When Abrams discovered a critical error in her research, she was tempted to rationalize and downplay the mistake. However, she chose to own up to her error, admitting it to her senior partner just 30 minutes before a crucial conference call.

The key takeaway is that preparing for both success and failure, and learning to be wrong, is essential for growth and effective leadership. Minorities, in particular, often face higher standards and pressure to be right all the time. However, hiding mistakes or pretending to have all the answers can have long-term consequences.

Instead, Abrams suggests that leaders should:

1. Take responsibility for mistakes: Owning up to errors and learning from them is crucial for growth.
2. Admit when you’re unsure: Coupling “I don’t know” with a plan to find out demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.
3. Use mistakes as opportunities for growth: Reflect on past experiences, identifying what went wrong and how you can improve in the future.

To practice making the most of mistakes, consider the following exercises:

1. Reflect on past risks: Write down three instances where you took risks, noting the consequences and whether you would do it again.
2. Evaluate your response to uncertainty: Think about times when you were tempted to pretend you knew the answer to something. How did you handle it? What were the outcomes of saying you knew versus saying you didn’t?

By embracing mistakes and learning from them, you can develop the resilience and humility necessary for effective leadership.

Seven

Stacey Abrams proposes a new approach to time management, which she calls “Work-Life Jenga.” This strategy acknowledges that achieving a perfect work-life balance is unrealistic and can lead to self-loathing. Instead, Abrams suggests organizing your time honestly and strategically, like a game of Jenga.

In this approach, you prioritize what matters most to you, accepting that life is unpredictable and obligations can arise unexpectedly. To identify your priorities, consider what animates your mind and heart, and focus on what truly matters to you, rather than what others expect.

Abrams adapted President Dwight D. Eisenhower’s method, categorizing tasks into four groups:

1. Gotta Do: Crucial tasks that must be done immediately.
2. Need to Do: Important tasks that should be done early to build goodwill for when unexpected events occur.
3. Oughta Do: Tasks that require urgency due to others’ needs.
4. Might Get Around To: Less important and non-urgent tasks.

To effectively manage your time:

1. Focus on what you’re good at and delegate tasks when possible.
2. Ask yourself if you must be the one to complete a task, and step back if someone else can do it equally well or better.

To help you determine what matters most to you, try writing two newspaper headlines:

1. One about your future self three to five years from now.
2. Another about your future self seven to ten years from now.

This exercise can help you clarify your priorities and make intentional decisions about how to allocate your time.

Eight

To create real change and acquire power, being creative with your resources and challenging yourself is crucial. This mindset allows you to turn limitations into opportunities for innovation. Stacey Abrams’ experience in the Georgia legislature is a great example of this. During her third year, the Republican majority attempted to push through controversial legislation on Crossover Day. Abrams found a loophole in the rules that allowed each member to spend 20 minutes questioning each bill. By using this tactic, the Democrats were able to slow down the process and eventually drop some of the more controversial bills.

The key takeaway is that you don’t need to have all the resources or power to make a difference. Instead, focus on:

– Inventorying your assets: Identify what you have, whether it’s information, access, or familiarity with the situation.

– Thinking creatively: Use your resources in innovative ways to achieve your goals.

– Adapting to circumstances: Be willing to adjust your approach as needed.

Additionally, consider the following strategies to drive change:

– Clarify what constitutes a win: Define what success looks like for you and adapt your mission accordingly.

– Use power mapping: Identify who’s in charge and how you can interact with them to achieve your goals.

– Map your ambition: Create a spreadsheet or plan outlining what you want, why you want it, and how you plan to achieve it.

By embracing these strategies, you can create real change and acquire power, even in the face of adversity.

Conclusion

To transition from outsider to leader, it’s essential to master six key areas: ambition, fear, opportunity, access, money, and failure. Here are some actionable tips to help you achieve your goals:

Mastering the Six Key Areas

1. Ambition: Be bold in your vision and define what success means to you.
2. Fear: Acknowledge and own your fears, using them as motivation to drive you forward.
3. Opportunity: Hack traditional systems and take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way.
4. Access: Be creative with limited resources and find innovative ways to access the tools and support you need.
5. Money: Develop financial fluency and learn to manage your resources effectively.
6. Failure: Accept that failure is an inevitable part of the journey and use it as a learning opportunity to grow and improve.

Actionable Advice

To help you clarify your priorities and vision, try the following exercises:

1. Write headlines about yourself: Imagine you’re a newspaper reporter, and write 10-15 word headlines about your life, including your accomplishments personally, professionally, and in the community.
2. Future headlines: Write headlines about your future self, 3-5 years and 7-10 years from now.
3. Crisis resolution: Describe a crisis you’ve solved, whether in your community, family, or the world, and how you achieved it.

These exercises will help you identify your priorities and create a clear vision for your future, enabling you to build a strong foundation for your Work-Life Jenga.

About the author

Stacey Abrams is a multifaceted American leader, exceling as a politician, voting rights activist, lawyer, and author. Her impressive career in public service includes serving in the Georgia House of Representatives from 2007 to 2017, where she rose to become minority leader from 2011 to 2017.

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